Where the Butterflies Go

Heather Grace Stewart: Author, Poet, Photographer

Position: Parent

Must be an excellent spin-doctor. Must be patient, consistent, and creative. Medical, teaching, debating, and policing skills; ability to clean up puke in strange places; tears on small faces; to help heal hurt feelings and mend broken hearts: Required.

Assets: Thinking on your feet, running with sore feet; willingness to play the same (physical and mental) games over and over, to enthusiastically pretend to like the hokey-pokey and later, try to understand the latest teen craze; to explain things you don’t really understand yourself, to be fair and flexible and admit all your mistakes.

No paid vacations or medical benefits.
Hours: Long and variable.
Must accept frequent schedule changes without notice.
Pay: You’re joking, right?
Rewards: Endless.

November 25, 2009 Posted by heather grace stewart | Children, Family, Family life, Kids, Life's challenges, Motherhood, Parenthood, Parenting, Poems about parenthood, Stay at home mothers, Stories about Parenthood, Supermom, Toddlers, Work at home mothers, Work-at-home parents | , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

A Lighter Take On Swine Flu Pandemonium

I know it’s serious, and I pray no one else dies from this, but I can’t help making fun of the pandemonium and media frenzy that has taken place around the world; the pandemonium taking place today in my province, as people line up for six hours or more, people with chronic illnesses, with their babies and toddlers, standing in the freezing cold, hacking and coughing on each other, waiting to get this vaccine. There’s got to be a better way.

On Swine Flu

I’m standing in line,
and I’ve got a gun.
Gimme that shot for H1N1.

Roses are red, violets are blue.
Let’s make love; not swine flu.

And for your holiday cards:

Kiss me, Santa Baby,
but don’t use tongue.
Let’s not spread H1N1.

November 2, 2009 Posted by heather grace stewart | Coping, Family, Family life, Kids, Life's challenges, Motherhood, Parenthood, Parenting, Poem about parenthood, Poems that rhyme, Poetry, Swine Flu, Thoughts, Uncategorized | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

Discipline

“Don’t hit your brother.”
“Don’t fight!”
“We don’t hurt people. It’s not nice.”
On the playground, at the grocery store,
on children’s TV shows;
out of our grown-up mouths.
Hear it, believe it, repeat it.

“Don’t fight.” “Don’t hit.”
Drill it into their moldable minds
like an annoying Internet ad,
always in the background.
Be effective parents.
Be consistent; be real.
Teach them about non-violence,
sharing, honesty—
Life’s greatest lessons.

And when you find your youngest
colouring the National Post in purple,
his innocent fingers tracing the truth:
Fighting in the Gaza Leaves 18 Dead;
Pudgy, Band Aid-patched legs
barely covering gruesome photos of
“necessary hits” on families like yours,
hits justified by fear, by greed—
by nothing at all,

Don’t see it, don’t believe it,
Don’t bother to explain it.
Only now learning to read,
he’ll flash an oblivious smile,
his crayons erasing the dead.

'At War' by Heather Grace Stewart

'At War' by Heather Grace Stewart

October 24, 2009 Posted by heather grace stewart | Children, Family, Kids, Life and Death, Parenthood, Parenting, Poem about parenthood, Poems about Hope, Poems about International Politics, Poems about Life and Death, Poems about loss, Poems about parenthood, Poems about peace, Poems about war, Poetry, Politics | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | No Comments Yet

On being wired differently

“Our home will be the only super-wired
house on our block!”
you grin at me amid a mess of wires
that fall two stories from our new master bedroom,
branching out like octopus arms to a spot
below the basement stairs.

I think you’ve gone mad.

It’s nearly midnight as I hold a flashlight
up for you to find the missing link.
We haven’t eaten, but you’re being fed
by some crazy kind of adrenaline—
and I, by the passion in your eyes,
as you realize your brilliant scheme
plotted back in March when this house
was just concrete and mud.

It’s nearly one a.m. now;
we flutter about the house
like moths in the moonlight;
You, humming as you wire us for life,
and I, listening to the crickets,
content in the darkness,
in this space that will be our jungle;

In this place you and I have marked
and called home.

Wired by Heather Grace Stewart

Wired by Heather Grace Stewart

October 13, 2009 Posted by heather grace stewart | Family, Family life, Love, Marriage, Poems about marriage, Poems about partners, Poems about technology, Poetry, Relationships, poems about relationships | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | No Comments Yet

Thoughts from a Gratitude Journal

So much seems trivial
studying the sun-kissed tulip
blossoming in the clear glass jar
at my bedside:
be beautiful
stretch toward the light.

Sun-Kissed by Heather Grace Stewart

Sun-Kissed by Heather Grace Stewart

October 7, 2009 Posted by heather grace stewart | Hope, Life's challenges, Poems about Change, Poems about Hope, Poems about Life and Death, Poems about peace, Poetry, Uncategorized | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | No Comments Yet

Instinct

Golden sunshine shimmers
on this lazy lake
like sequins. A lone cormorant
flaps its wings incessantly,
as if in defiance
of the coming cold.
Oblivious couples walk
arm in arm beneath
the weeping willows,
kicking up dead leaves like
forgotten arguments.
They sport only t-shirts—
the joggers, shorts—
as if wearing them
will impede the inevitable:
snow, sleet, heavy traffic,
Christmas crowds,
cell-phones ringing
in the middle of a movie.

The cormorant spreads his wings
and praises the sun;
preening on his rightful throne,
unaware that winter is late this year—
going by instinct because
that is all he knows.

3DucksPreening

October 6, 2009 Posted by heather grace stewart | Family life, Friendship, Hope, Life and Death, Life's challenges, Love, Marriage, Poems about Change, Poems about Freedom, Poems about Hope, Poems about Life and Death, Poems about partners, Poetry, Relationships, Seasons, poems about relationships | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

light moments

I want to remember
the look on your face
when you walked my way;
the feel of your hand
on the small of my back
when you walked me home.

You must have worn blue;
maybe an overcoat
as we rushed into the rain.

We drank coffee,
talked about writing;
the state of the world.

Did you make an
awkward joke?
Take my hand?
Say my name?

We measure national debt,
average rainfall, yearly income,
overall satisfaction with everything
from online banking to
mail order brides.

We mark height and holidays,
historic moments, essays, exams,
final resting places—
then celebrate or mourn them
with cheesy greeting cards.

We don’t mark
light moments
like we mark the dead.

I want to remember
the look on your face
when you walked my way;
the feel of your hand
on the small of my back
when you walked me home.

October 3, 2009 Posted by heather grace stewart | Friendship, Life and Death, Life's challenges, Love, Marriage, Online Relationships, Poems about Life and Death, Poems about loss, Poems about marriage, Poems about partners, Poetry, Relationships, Thoughts, Writing, poems about relationships, remembrance | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

Honey-Do List

I’ve been meaning to tell you.
There was this guy, Mike—
I think that was his name—
on TV today.

Mike can kick himself in the head
over and over and over,
twenty-five times in one minute.

It gave me this idea.
A time-saving technique.
When we’re fighting about
nothing and everything all at once;
When you’ve just said it’s only PMS,
and I’m glaring at you with that
“You’re so not getting laid tonight!” look;
When you’re throwing your
hands up in the air, yelling,
“What do you want from me?”

Give Mike a call.
Learn how to do that.

September 26, 2009 Posted by heather grace stewart | Family, Family life, Life and Death, Life's challenges, Love, Marriage, Poems about marriage, Poetry, poems about relationships | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

When Freedom Stands

Babies are born and lovers lie;
We’ll make plans, when Freedom stands.
Do not let their stories die.

We teach the how, perhaps the why;
Teach to repeat, to ace exams;
Heart and truth would make them cry.

He stayed inside, in search of his brother.
The second plane hit, lens on his mother.

They put on their fire suits, knowing the worst.
They stormed the pilot; called home first.

Some got relief. Some got the wall.
Nine-thousand remains: nothing at all.

Heartbeats skip and minutes fly
like spy planes with capture plans.
And the dead cannot ask why.

It’s not the oil. Truly, we’ll try.
Allied lands, joining hands—
Empty space in our New York sky.

Babies are born and lovers cry;
We’ll make plans, when Freedom stands.
Do not let their stories lie.
Do not let their stories die.

The Twin Towers, by Heather Grace Stewart (2000)

The Twin Towers, by Heather Grace Stewart (2000)

September 10, 2009 Posted by heather grace stewart | Coping, Faith, Heroes, Hope, Life and Death, Life's challenges, Love, Modern Villanelles, Poems about 9/11, Poems about Freedom, Poems about Hope, Poems about International Politics, Poems about Life and Death, Poems about Terrorism, Poems about loss, Poems about war, Poems on making a difference, Poems that rhyme, Poetry, Politics, U.S. politics, remembrance | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

Thank-you, Dear Readers

I’ve just received another Certificate of Donation from Unicef. This is my second Gift of Education donation and third charitable donation to educational causes using proceeds from sales of Where the Butterflies Go. Thanks for buying the book and making a big difference in the lives of needy children (and in their communities–the Gift also covers part of their teacher’s salary for a year). Now I understand what words can do. Everything.  If you haven’t yet, please check out my poetry collection here and pass the link along to others. If you’d like an autographed copy shipped to your home, it’s easy to arrange–just drop me a line here. I’d like to keep going–so much more can be done.

Thanks also for commenting on my poems and stories; for letting me know when and how they’ve touched you. You brighten my days and keep me creating.

Heather

Gift of Education

Gift of Education

August 27, 2009 Posted by heather grace stewart | Children, Grace Educational Trust School, Hope, Kids, Poems about Hope, Poems on making a difference, Poetry, Unicef Gifts of Education, Writing | , , , , , , , , , , , , | No Comments Yet